“ of course we don’t have to THROW them away — but there’s always so much
pressure for weddings to be perfect. if we’re already MARRIED at the ceremony
doesn’t that sort of HELP us in the end ? ”
“ true, but if we’re ALREADY married at the ceremony it would feel more like a sham
than the beginning of the rest of our lives. yet, if we get married beforehand we could
have an EARLIER honeymoon…but i’m not sure i could handle the guilty feeling as i
pretend in front of everyone that i’m getting married for the first time when really it’d
be the second. ”